The difference lies in details. Everybody agrees that some changes are needed to improve but something stops. What is it? On the surface everything is Ok and the surface is active, even wild but real life goes on beneath. Without changing the bottom, everything is on the surface. And as people, if we don’t change our inner selves and be honest at least to ourselves or if we haven’t discovered our dominant values, we will keep beating around the bush. What is more important? How do we see things? Where is our standpoint? Are there any other ways to see/think? Maybe I should break my shell, talk to different people, see different places, read different books, even practice different ways to handle the problems and improve things. Another key point is that in the past when a student was enrolled to a school , the first lesson (s)he had to learn was to say ‘I don’t know’. Only then was (s)he ready to learn new things and ideas. Be yourself but not stubborn. Speak out but when your group decides on something even though it wasn’t your idea, practice and work together and sincerely as if it was your own idea. Yet, keep searching.
by Ibrahim Can Korkut
hello
ReplyDeleteThe start piont to began the change is that you began to admit to your selfe sincerly without lieing her or (him) that you are wrong with something or that you don't have the sufficient knowledges in that case.but in practise i belive that for the human being is not so easy to be sincer with them self , we believe we do but actually we love to have alwas right.
Dear Ibrahim
ReplyDeleteYou gave great allegory about breaking the shell.But do you know for many people it is more comfortable and safer to be in the shell.It is like freeing a slave who doesn't know what to do next, how to live now. People like when everything is certain and clear. Like that you know where to expect the danger from.
Dear İbrahim,
ReplyDeleteI've read your post with pleasure.
In theoretically you can be right If every one can broke their shell it can be good step for the improvment however in real life some people's shell is really strong and sometimes it is difficult to break it, they are not open to change or new ideas and for them there is just one way which they think.
You can, I can and some of others can go out from ours own shells because we are already open to new ideas, new informations.. but the problem is the rest. They force us to struggle with them and again we start to use our shell for improvment or correct decision for any situation.
If your idea is right and the other one would't change his idea? In that case are we going better or deteriorate?
H Ibrahim,
ReplyDeleteI am happy to see that sometimes no matter of the background or the culture people still think the same. I totally agree with your point of view and this is a message to everyone and especiall our classmate who are reading...
As you mentioned before...Yet, keep searching.
Br, Anri