“Click” is the most important thing in negotiation, making constructive dialogue, in short, in communication. The first aspect of people’s interrelations is affection. Let you be a businessman, a teacher or anyone else who deals with people, you have to be liked and like who you deal with (or show you like them) to be successful. My beloved teacher told me: ”When you enter the classroom for the first time your first aim is to make your students like you. If you can do it you will be able to teach them.” I had worked as a teacher for 10 years. It really worked. But I realized one more thing that TO BE LOVED is nearly as important as TO LOVE. It is one aspect of affection.
Another aspect is to be flexible. Some people consider flexibility as losing your own self, having no personal attitude towards things. But to my mind it is to be adaptive to the environment you are in (country, group of people etc). For example, I had a chance to work in three different countries. It means I had to change my behavior accordingly. I must confess it is not difficult if you don’t lose your identity and follow your moral principles. It can seem contradicting but to be yourself can help you be flexible. People especially children feel if you are not sincere. They will just not “click” on you.
To have natural affection and sincere love from whom you want to get something is inseparable part of relation.
Hi Olga,
ReplyDeleteI like your thought and I want to add sth by my opinion, we can't change our character that was form on years but we can change only our behaviors sometimes on positive direction and sometimes on bad direction depending on several situation and being elastic helps us on choosing what is bad or good therefore we think to click on one way or another.
Hi Ladies,
ReplyDeleteI find Olga's example of Teacher-Student click very interesting. However what happens if some of the students do not click? Then these will be one step behind in the education, and all we know in terms of equal opportunity in access to education etc. will have to be forgotten and we have to start from scratch. Of course I believe the reality is that Olga does her best to gain even the most problematic of her students, trying to give her affection and interest as equal as possible, but this doesn't happen through the methods in the book for sure...
Regards,
Mehmet